There’s heartbreak, and then there’s spiritual heartbreak—the kind that cracks open your soul and leaves you staring at the ceiling wondering if you’ll ever feel whole again. You didn’t just love this person—you connected with them, maybe even across lifetimes. You felt their energy in your dreams, in your bones, in your spells. And now they’re gone. Whether the bond broke gently or shattered in chaos, the pain feels deep, old, and sacred.
Witches don’t fall lightly. When we give our hearts, we weave them into the threads of the Universe. We make promises under moonlight, charge memories into crystals, and sometimes even tie soul cords without knowing it. So when we lose someone we spiritually bonded with, the grief feels… cosmic. Like we’re mourning more than a person—we’re mourning part of ourselves.
But here’s the truth: no bond, no matter how powerful, is meant to break you. You’re still here. Still magical. Still whole. Just maybe a little tangled up in memories, energy cords, and what-ifs. And that’s okay. The healing path is a spiral, not a straight line.
This is your guide, witch to witch, on how to untangle, release, and reclaim your power. We’ll talk cleansing, cord-cutting, spirit work, and practical magick to help you let go without forgetting who you are. You don’t have to erase the love—you just have to rise from it.
A Witch’s Guide to Getting Over Someone You Spiritually Bonded With
1. Acknowledge the Bond (And Its Depth)
Before you do anything else, pause and honor what you had. This wasn’t just a fleeting crush or casual fling. You felt this person in your spirit—in dreams, in meditations, in the quiet knowing of your gut. Spiritual bonds run deeper than logic, and often, they aren’t even fully explainable. That’s what makes them beautiful… and devastating when they dissolve.
You may have shared synchronicities, intense eye contact, strange cosmic timing, or even past-life memories. That’s not nothing. It’s sacred. It deserves to be held in your heart for a moment before you let it go. Grieving something spiritual doesn’t make you dramatic—it makes you human, and magical. Let yourself feel every ache without rushing.
Try lighting a single candle and sitting in silence. Speak their name into the flame. Say, “We had something powerful. I honor what it was, and I choose to begin my release.” You don’t have to be ready to move on yet. You just have to be brave enough to face the truth.
And if tears come, let them. They’re part of the spellwork too.
2. Cleanse Their Energy Out of Your Space
Even if they’re no longer in your life, their energy may be everywhere. In your clothes, your bed, your altar—even in the air. That’s why physical and spiritual cleansing is your first practical step. You’re not just tidying up—you’re reclaiming space. Your space.
Start with a smoke cleanse if that’s your practice—mugwort is especially powerful for moving out old energy. Walk from room to room with intention. Speak aloud as you go: “This space belongs to me. I release what lingers that is not mine.” Open windows and doors. Let the stale energy escape into the wind.
You can also sprinkle black salt or saltwater around the perimeter of your home. Wash your sheets, rearrange your furniture, and remove anything that feels like theirs. If you keep sentimental items, place them in a box and tuck them away for now. You don’t have to throw everything out—but you do need breathing room.
Don’t forget your energy field. Take ritual baths with lavender, rosemary, and sea salt. Comb through your aura with your hands. Feel where they may still be hanging on—and gently ask them to leave.
3. Cut the Energetic Cords
One of the most powerful rituals in a witch’s healing toolkit is cord-cutting. When you spiritually bond with someone, an energetic tether forms. This cord can stretch across time and space. Even when you don’t see or talk to them, you might still feel them—dream about them, sense their emotions, or get sudden waves of grief or desire. That’s the cord.
To cut it, you need to set sacred space. Gather your tools: a white candle (for peace), a black candle (for release), two pieces of string, and representations of both you and them. This could be photos, written names, or small objects that symbolize each person.
Tie the two strings together and place the symbols on opposite sides. Light both candles. As they burn, visualize the cord between you pulsing with shared energy. Thank the bond for what it gave you. Then, speak your release aloud: “This soul tie is complete. I honor it, and I let it go.” Cut the string with a blade or scissors. Watch the ends fall away. Let the candles burn down or snuff them with respect.
You may feel emotional afterward—shaky, relieved, even dizzy. That’s normal. You just shifted energy on a soul level. Drink water, ground yourself, and rest. And know this: you can always repeat the ritual as many times as you need. Healing isn’t linear. It’s lunar.
4. Write a Letter You’ll Never Send
Sometimes the weight of unspoken feelings is what keeps the bond alive. The things you didn’t get to say—the rage, the love, the confusion—hang in the air like a spell with no ending. Writing a letter gives that spell a place to land. It’s powerful, messy, and deeply cleansing.
Grab paper and pen. Not your phone. Not your laptop. Go old-school. Set the mood however you like—candlelight, incense, soft music. Then, write. Say everything. Let your words spill like potion: angry, loving, raw, bittersweet. This is for you, not them.
You might start with, “I miss you” and end with, “I’m better off without you.” Let it evolve. Your truth may surprise you. As you write, you’re releasing trapped emotion and giving your inner voice a stage. The more honest you are, the more healing it brings.
Once it’s done, choose your ending ritual. Burn it under the moon. Bury it in a potted plant. Rip it into tiny pieces and scatter it into water. Say: “I let this go. I keep the lessons, and I return to myself.” Feel the shift. It’s real.
5. Reclaim Your Energy Through Daily Rituals
When we bond spiritually, we sometimes give pieces of ourselves away—our attention, our magic, our light. After a breakup, you may feel scattered, tired, or disconnected from your own power. The way back is through tiny, intentional rituals that call your energy home.
Start each morning with a grounding practice. Put your hands on your heart and say, “I return all energy that is mine. I release all energy that is not.” Imagine your power flowing back like golden light. Feel it settle into your bones.
Use mundane actions with magical intent. Stir your tea clockwise while thinking, This is for my healing. Clean your room as if you’re dusting off grief. Carry a crystal like labradorite or obsidian to shield and center you. Use mirrors to reflect your magic back to yourself—look deep into your own eyes and speak a kind spell.
These don’t have to be big, dramatic moments. They just have to be real. Bit by bit, ritual by ritual, you’ll feel more like yourself again. And eventually, even stronger.
6. Stop Looking for Signs From Them
After a spiritual breakup, everything feels like a message. The same song plays on the radio. You dream of them three nights in a row. A white feather lands on your windowsill. Is it a sign? Maybe. But maybe… it’s just your heart searching for meaning in the silence.
You are sensitive to energy—that’s part of your gift. But just because you’re receiving something doesn’t mean it’s meant to pull you back. Often, it’s not them trying to reconnect. It’s the Universe nudging you toward healing. The signs are real—but they’re for you, not about them.
Next time something reminds you of them, pause. Ask: “Is this leading me forward or keeping me stuck?” If it brings comfort, accept it and move on. If it stirs longing, lovingly detach. You don’t need to chase every spiritual whisper. Some of them are just echoes. Let them fade.
Refocus on signs from your guides, your ancestors, your future self. Let the Universe speak to you—not through someone you’re trying to release.
7. Reconnect With Your Own Soul Path
Spiritual bonds can blur your focus. You get so wrapped up in their journey, their healing, your connection—you forget you had a whole path before they showed up. Now’s the time to remember. Your soul is calling.
What part of your practice have you been neglecting? Was it your tarot deck? Your moon rituals? Your dreams? Start there. Return gently. No pressure. Just curiosity. Light a candle and say, “I’m ready to hear myself again.”
You might find your creativity waking up. A new spell idea. A sudden craving to walk barefoot under the stars. That’s your soul stretching back into place. Let it. Let yourself be excited again. Fall in love with your own path.
You came into this life with a purpose. That hasn’t changed. It just got temporarily entangled. Now, you get to walk it again—this time, wiser.
8. Don’t Shame Yourself for Still Loving Them
Witches feel deeply. That’s part of our strength. But it can also make things harder when we expect ourselves to “just get over it.” Love doesn’t work like that. Especially not the soul-deep kind. And just because someone’s no longer right for you doesn’t mean the love disappears overnight.
It’s okay to still love them. It’s okay to still miss them. You can feel those things and still move forward. The goal isn’t to erase them from your memory—it’s to make peace with what was and carry only what serves you now.
Let yourself feel. Cry if you need to. Laugh at the good memories. Curse the bad ones. Be fully human. Love is never wasted. It teaches, expands, and transforms. It cracked you open—and now you get to decide what grows in that space.
Healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It means releasing the pain and keeping the wisdom.
9. Surround Yourself With Witchy Support
There’s something sacred about being witnessed by others who get it. Reach out to your witchy community—whether it’s close friends, an online group, or even a circle you’ve yet to form. We heal best when we’re not alone in the dark.
Talk to someone who understands soul bonds, energy work, or heartbreak from a spiritual lens. Share your spells, your grief, your dreams. Let others remind you of who you are when you forget. There’s so much power in being seen and held by other magical souls.
If you’re solitary, connect with spirit guides, ancestors, or deities you work with. Ask for signs of support, and you’ll get them. Light a candle for “community” and see what shows up in your world.
You’re not meant to carry this on your own. Witches rise together.
10. Trust That Something Better Is Coming
This may feel like the end—but it’s not. It’s a shift. A necessary clearing. The Universe saw the bond, honored it, and is now gently making space for something more aligned. That doesn’t mean what you had was wrong—it just means it’s no longer right for where you’re going.
Something beautiful is waiting. Maybe a deeper love, maybe a new calling, maybe a stronger version of you. But it can’t arrive if you’re still clinging to the past. Your next chapter wants you open, soft, and ready.
Trust that your heart will heal, your soul will recalibrate, and the right energy will find its way to you—without force, without fear. Just flow. Let go of the timeline. Let go of needing to know what’s next.
You’re not broken. You’re becoming. The future is already weaving something magical on your behalf.
YOU ARE STILL MAGIC
Letting go of a spiritual bond is one of the hardest kinds of heartbreak a witch can face. It’s not just about missing someone—it’s about releasing a version of you that existed in their presence. But you don’t have to erase anything. You don’t have to forget. You only have to choose yourself.
And in doing so, you reclaim your energy, your path, and your power. You’re not broken—you’re becoming. You are still magic. Always were. Always will be.
