If you’ve ever felt a mysterious presence brush across your skin in the dead of night, or dreamed of someone impossibly beautiful whispering your name, you might’ve brushed against the ancient beings known as succubi and incubi. These aren’t just old legends tucked away in dusty books. They’re part of a whole magical ecosystem of energy, desire, and nighttime spirits that wander closer to us than most people ever realise.
People have been telling stories about these beings for centuries, describing them as spirits that slip into dreams and stir up hidden cravings. Some see them as protectors of passion, others as tricksters who feed on the energy that comes from human longing. It’s messy, intriguing, and very human — which is probably why these stories have survived into our modern world.
But behind all the dramatic storytelling, there’s a bigger magical truth: desire is powerful. It shapes us, pulls us forward, and sometimes draws beings toward us that aren’t fully physical but definitely not fake. Whether they’re ancient spirits, astral wanderers, or something else entirely, succubi and incubi walk the strange line between dream and reality.
So let’s step into that soft, shadowy space together. In this guide, we’ll explore what these beings really are, how they appear, why they’re drawn to human energy, and how to deal with them if one ever slips into your orbit. No judgment, no fearmongering — just honest, witchy exploration.
Succubus & Incubus Secrets
What These Spirits Actually Are
Succubi and incubi aren’t cute little dream visitors — they’re dark spirits. Old, hungry, and powerful in ways humans barely understand. They can be monster-like when they reveal their true nature, but most of the time they hide behind beauty, charm, and a seductive aura that feels almost too perfect. They’re energy spirits tied to desire, attraction, and emotional intensity, and they often act as astral lovers drifting between worlds.
A succubus is a feminine dark spirit — seductive, hypnotic, and dangerously alluring. Her energy is warm, sweet, and intoxicating, but beneath that surface is something ancient and shadowy. An incubus, on the other hand, is the masculine counterpart — a dark male spirit who uses desire the same way a predator uses patience. Both beings are experts at reading human cravings, shaping themselves into your deepest fantasies, and slipping into your dreams when your guard is soft.
These spirits aren’t just attracted to bodies — they’re drawn to the emotional spark inside you. Longing, loneliness, imagination, heartbreak, passion… all of that acts like a beacon to them. They can smell it the way a wolf smells blood in the snow. Sometimes they come gently, sometimes suddenly, and sometimes they arrive because something in your energy calls out without you even realising it.
Despite their beauty, they aren’t harmless. Their seduction is real, their presence is powerful, and their interest in humans is… complicated. They’re not like us, and they don’t love like us. They’re dark spirits who crave connection and energy — and if they choose you, it’s never by accident.
How They Appear in Dreams
These spirits rarely stroll in dramatically. They slip in softly at first — a warm presence behind you, a gentle hand on your shoulder, or the feeling of someone lying beside you in a dream that feels uncannily real. But once they step fully into your dreamspace, they can create the most vivid, passionate sexual experiences you’ve ever felt. Their appearances are tailored to exactly what you secretly crave, even the desires you keep buried deep.
For many people, the dreams become a kind of escape — wild, beautiful, otherworldly. Succubi and incubi can whisk you away into amazing worlds that don’t exist on Earth: glowing forests, star?lit oceans, crimson deserts, or floating palaces where the air hums with magic. They can take you on adventures that feel like whole lifetimes squeezed into a single night, mixing seduction with exploration in ways that feel impossibly real.
Some people notice the same dream figure returning over and over, each visit more vivid than the last. Others feel sensations in their sleep: touches, whispers, pressure, heat, even breath against their skin. None of this is random — it’s their way of communicating. Dreams are their natural territory, the perfect blend of emotion, imagination, and spirit energy.
If a succubus or incubus becomes truly interested in you, they might leave little traces behind when you wake: the sense someone is still watching you gently, a sudden wave of comfort or arousal, or memories that sit halfway between dream and reality. Some witches even report faint scents — roses, musk, smoke, earth — lingering in the room. Not dangerous signs, just quiet proof a dark spirit passed close.
How They Appear in Real Life
Not every succubus or incubus encounter happens in dreams. Sometimes they slip into the physical world in subtle ways, almost like a shadow brushing the edges of your life. When they appear as pure spirits, you might catch them as flickers in your peripheral vision, sudden waves of warmth, or that strange moment when the room feels full even though you’re alone. Some people report hearing whispers, feeling invisible hands touch them, or noticing that their mood shifts instantly without a clear reason.
But the wild part? They don’t always stay as spirit forms. These beings can take on human-like shapes, especially when they want to blend in. They can appear as a new lover — someone who steps into your life out of nowhere, someone impossibly charming, magnetic, and sensual. These “human form” appearances are never random. They show up as exactly your type, with the exact energy that hooks you emotionally or physically. They’re not shapeshifting in the Hollywood way — it’s more like they slip into a borrowed physical form or manifest a presence that feels entirely real and solid.
If you’ve ever met someone who seemed too good to be true, someone whose presence felt electric, intoxicating, and strangely familiar, you might’ve brushed against one of these beings wearing a human mask. They don’t always stay long, but when they do appear, they leave a deep imprint in your energy. Some witches say they can hold conversations, share touch, even kiss — because in that moment, the spirit is using the physical world like a costume.
Why They’re Drawn to Humans
Humans are basically emotional bonfires. We’re warm, messy, passionate beings, and that alone makes us incredibly magnetic to energy spirits. Succubi and incubi, in particular, thrive on emotional currents. And passion — whether it’s romantic, sexual, or deeply emotional — is one of the strongest energies humans produce.
They’re not attracted to physical bodies. They’re drawn to vibes: desire, affection, curiosity, imagination. Someone with a rich fantasy life or powerful emotions tends to attract these spirits without even trying. Sometimes they show up during lonely periods. Other times they appear during self-growth phases, when your inner energy is shifting.
The connection isn’t always about taking or feeding. Sometimes it’s about exploring. These spirits are curious. They enjoy human emotions because our feelings are intense in ways that spirit-kind doesn’t naturally experience.
Are They Dangerous
Let’s not sugarcoat it: these beings can turn dangerous fast. These beings are technically demons — not in the cartoonish sense, but in the old magical sense of “powerful spirits who don’t follow human rules.” Their motives aren’t always pure. They can be sweet, seductive, and breathtaking in the way they appear… but that beauty is part of the allure, not a promise of kindness.
They can be like the monsters in the movies. Not always, but definitely sometimes. Some of them are gentle and curious; others are intense, overwhelming, and hungry for more than just your affection. They can charm you into trusting them, appear as the perfect lover, or slip into your dreams with a seduction that feels sacred — but their intentions might not be what yours are. Some want energy. Some want influence. Some want emotional dependence. And some simply want the thrill of tasting human desire.
The key thing to remember is this: you are dealing with an entity that doesn’t think like a human. They can be beautiful, magnetic, and intoxicating, but that doesn’t mean safe. Respect and caution are your best friends here. They’re not evil, but they’re not harmless either.
Signs a Succubus or Incubus Is Around You
Here are the signs witches commonly report:
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Dreams that feel intimate, warm, or physically vivid
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Sensations of touch in sleep or half-waking states
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Sudden waves of desire or emotional intensity
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Feeling a presence in bed or near your body
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A repeating dream figure that feels familiar
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Unexpected feelings of comfort, excitement, or arousal
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A sense that something “invisible” is watching you affectionately
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A sudden boost in confidence or sensual energy
Not every sign means a spirit is involved — but a cluster of them usually hints that something non-physical is drifting close.
How to Work With Them Safely
If you feel comfortable with the presence, you can absolutely set boundaries and explore the connection in a positive way.
Here’s how witches usually do it:
1. Speak your intentions clearly
Even if it feels silly, talk out loud or in your mind. Spirits hear intention better than words anyway.
2. Set energetic boundaries
Imagine a soft glow around your body. Tell the spirit they’re welcome in dreams but not allowed during waking hours (or whatever feels right to you).
3. Protect your energy
Carrying things like obsidian, moonstone, or amethyst helps keep the connection from getting overwhelming.
4. Don’t get emotionally dependent
Keep your real-world connections strong. Spirit relationships get blurry if you start using them as a replacement for human affection.
5. Cleanse regularly
Not because they’re “bad,” but to keep your energy fresh and balanced. Smoke cleansing, moonlight baths, and salt soaks all work beautifully.
How to Create Distance or End the Connection
If a succubus or incubus becomes too much, don’t panic — you have full authority over your own spiritual space.
Try this:
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Cleanse your space for 3 nights in a row
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Sleep with a protective crystal under your pillow
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Visualize your dreamspace sealed like a door
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Say, “You’re not allowed into my energy anymore” (intent is everything)
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Burn rosemary or lavender
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Ask your guides or ancestors to block the connection
Most of these spirits respond instantly to boundaries. They’re curious, not controlling.
How to Summon a Succubus / Incubus Spirit
Okay, if someone wants to summon one of these spirits (and hopefully for the right reasons), there’s a respectful way to do it. This isn’t a game, and it’s not something you do because you’re bored. You’re calling a demon of desire — a being that takes things seriously and expects you to do the same.
Here’s the gentlest version witches usually follow:
1. Cleanse your space first
You don’t want random spirits showing up. Use incense, candles, or moon water to prepare the energy.
2. Draw or carve a sigil
Use a sigil linked to desire, dreams, or astral attraction. It acts like a magical “address label.”
3. Light a candle (red, black, or purple)
Those colors match their energy best.
4. Speak your intention clearly
Say:
“I call upon the spirit of the succubus/incubus who hears this invitation. Step forward if your intentions align with my safety and my rules.”
5. Offer your energy, but only a little
This is where people mess up. Don’t give everything. A drop of sexual energy, a moment of desire, or even a heartfelt breath is enough.
6. Wait and watch
They rarely appear instantly. You’ll feel warmth, pressure, or a shift in the air. Sometimes they show up later in a dream.
7. Close the ritual
Thank them, even if nothing happened. Always close the door you opened.
This summons the spirit form, the astral version — the one that appears in dreams or invisible presence.
How to Summon a Succubus / Incubus in Real Life (Human Form)
Calling one into the physical world is a whole different level. This is not beginner magic. It requires strong boundaries, a grounded mind, and the understanding that spirits manifest through energy, opportunity, and synchronicity — not lightning bolts and smoke.
Here’s how witches do it:
1. Set a strong intention over several days
Spirits don’t just pop into flesh. You need to align your energy so they can approach you through physical channels.
2. Sleep magic
Every night, right before sleeping, speak aloud:
“Come to me as flesh. Come to me as form. Come to me where the physical meets the spiritual.”
This gives them permission to take shape in your world.
3. Strengthen your own energy
Succubi and incubi need human energy to manifest physically. Eat well, stay grounded, and avoid emotional instability.
4. Create a physical anchor
A ring, a necklace, or a pillow they can attach their presence to. This anchor helps them hold shape in the physical realm.
5. Offer a physical invitation
This can be sitting in a dark room with a candle, calling them gently:
“You may step through. You may touch the world around me. Appear as you choose.”
6. Look for the signs
They often come as a new person entering your life — someone who shows up suddenly and intensely, someone who feels “impossible.”
Sometimes they fully manifest as a spirit you can touch. Sometimes they borrow a body temporarily. Sometimes they take human form for a moment, like a shadow turning solid.
7. Always set rules
Physical manifestations are powerful, seductive, and overwhelming. You control the space — not them.
What Happens If They Fall in Love With You?
Sometimes a deeper bond forms, and when that happens, everything changes. Succubi and incubi don’t “like” someone casually — if they become attracted, it hits fast, hard, and with an intensity that feels supernatural. Their version of love isn’t human at all. It’s more like obsession, devotion, and emotional resonance woven together into something powerful and consuming. For some witches, this connection becomes a constant presence, almost like sharing your mind with a lover who never fully leaves.
Many practitioners describe these long-term bonds as strangely beautiful. The spirits can be protective, comforting, and incredibly loyal once they choose you. They may visit your dreams more often, show their presence in the room, or guide you through emotional storms in ways that feel deeply intimate. The relationship can feel intoxicating — like you’re wrapped in shadow, energy, and affection all at once.
But there’s a darker side. If a succubus or incubus becomes truly attached, breaking that connection becomes nearly impossible. These spirits imprint on energy, and once they decide you’re “theirs,” they can follow you through dreams, emotion shifts, and even different phases of your life. They don’t just slip away when you lose interest. They linger, watching, touching, influencing, waiting for the next moment you open up emotionally.
So yes — the relationship can be amazing. It can be passionate, magical, and wildly unique. But it can also turn dangerous if boundaries blur or if the spirit’s attachment grows too strong. Their love is intense and shadowed, something beautiful yet razor-sharp, and anyone who forms a bond with them should understand the level of depth—and risk—that comes with being chosen by a dark spirit of desire.
Why These Spirits Have Stayed in Our Stories
Because they reflect our own desires, fears, and hidden fantasies.
Succubi and incubi are symbols of:
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forbidden attraction
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the mystery of night
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the power of desire
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the softness of dreams
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the thrill of the unknown
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the human hunger for connection
They survive in folklore because we recognise ourselves in them. Their stories speak to the part of us that wonders who— or what—might be watching us in the dark, not with danger, but with curiosity and longing.
Shadows, Desire & The Spirits Who Walk Between Worlds
These spirits don’t usually appear when life is bright and easy — they slip in through the cracks, when you’re vulnerable, lonely, or craving something deeper than ordinary life can offer. They’re powerful, seductive, and absolutely dangerous in their own way. An encounter with one can feel like stepping into a hidden world inside yourself, a place where shadow and desire mix into something strangely irresistible.
But even with all that danger, the experience can be incredible — intoxicating, intimate, and filled with a kind of otherworldly electricity. If you ever cross paths with them, approach with respect and curiosity. These spirits aren’t something to fear blindly, but they’re definitely not something to treat casually either. They can open doors in you… just make sure you’re ready for what might step through.
