Sexual energy is powerful. It’s not just physical—it’s emotional, spiritual, and deeply energetic. Every time we connect with someone on that intimate level, we exchange more than just touch. We exchange energy, intention, emotion, memory. And sometimes, long after the relationship is over, a part of them can still linger within us… even if we don’t want them to.
You might find yourself thinking of them randomly, dreaming of them, or feeling drained in ways you can’t explain. Maybe you notice certain triggers, old habits, or even energetic blocks that weren’t there before. These are signs that your sexual energy might still be entangled with someone from your past. And the truth is—you don’t owe anyone your energy forever. You can take it back.
Reclaiming your sexual energy isn’t about shame or regret. It’s about power. It’s about remembering that your body, your soul, your energy are yours. It’s about gently calling your spirit back home, untangling the threads, and stepping into your full sensual power again—clean, clear, and free.
This is sacred work. It’s healing. And it’s honestly kind of magical. Let’s walk through some simple but powerful rituals to help you reclaim what’s rightfully yours—your energy, your desire, your joy, your wholeness.
Rituals to Reclaim Your Sexual Energy After a Breakup
1. The Cord-Cutting Candle Ritual
This is one of the most effective ways to energetically sever ties. It works best during the waning moon or on a Sunday night when you’re feeling ready to release.
You’ll need:
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Two black or white candles (one for you, one for them)
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A piece of string or twine
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A fireproof bowl
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Scissors
How to do it:
Set the two candles in holders about six inches apart. Tie the string from one candle to the other, symbolizing the energetic tie. As you light both candles, close your eyes and call in your past lover’s energy—not to talk or argue, but to simply acknowledge the connection. Speak aloud:
“I honor the part you played in my story, and I now release you with love.”
Then, use the scissors to cut the string. Let it fall. Watch the flames as the energy untangles. Burn the string in the fireproof bowl and say:
“I call my energy back to me. I am whole. I am free.”
Let the candles burn out or snuff them with intention. Breathe. You just did deep work.
2. Sacred Bath of Release
Water is a natural energy cleanser and healer. This ritual helps wash away emotional residue, old sexual energy, and any lingering attachments.
You’ll need:
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Sea salt or Epsom salt
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A few drops of rose or jasmine essential oil
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Dried herbs like rosemary or lavender
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A rose quartz crystal (optional)
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A white or pink candle
How to do it:
Run a warm bath. As the water fills, speak to it like a friend:
“Cleanse me of old lovers, old energy, anything that doesn’t belong to me.”
Add the salt, oil, and herbs. Light your candle. Sit in the water, close your eyes, and breathe deep. Picture your body glowing as you say:
“I release all that no longer serves me. My body is sacred. My energy is mine.”
Soak for as long as you like. When you’re ready, let the water drain and imagine all the stuck energy flowing away with it.
3. Mirror Ritual for Soul Retrieval
This one is beautiful and intense. You’ll be calling your energy back from wherever you left it—through lovers, places, memories.
You’ll need:
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A mirror (big enough to see your whole face)
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A quiet, private space
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A journal and pen
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Soft music (optional)
How to do it:
Sit in front of the mirror. Look deeply into your own eyes. This is where your soul speaks. Say out loud:
“To every part of me I gave away… I call you home. To every piece of power I forgot I had… I call you home. To the version of me who thought I had to shrink to be loved… I call you home.”
Let yourself feel whatever comes up. Cry, sigh, smile. You might get memories, images, or just waves of emotion. After, write down what came through. This ritual works like a magnet for lost energy. You’re pulling yourself back into wholeness.
4. Yoni (or Womb) Blessing with Crystals and Breath
This is especially good if you feel like someone’s energy is still lingering in your body or womb space. You don’t have to have a womb to do this—just a desire to reclaim that creative, sensual part of yourself.
You’ll need:
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A yoni egg or rose quartz crystal (or just your hands)
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Comfortable clothes or nothing at all
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Soft blanket and privacy
How to do it:
Lie down in a quiet space. Place the crystal gently on your lower belly or hold it in your hand over that area. Breathe deeply into your womb space. With each exhale, imagine clearing out old energy. With each inhale, imagine glowing golden light filling you.
Say aloud or silently:
“This space is mine. I release all cords, lovers, memories, and energies that do not belong to me.”
You can do this as often as you like. You’re creating a clean, loving space for your true self to thrive.
5. Write & Burn Letter Ritual
This one is cathartic. You’ll write out everything you still carry from that connection—good, bad, unresolved—and then burn it to set it free.
You’ll need:
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Pen and paper
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Fireproof bowl
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Lighter or matches
How to do it:
Write a letter to your past lover. Say everything you never said. Let it be raw and real. Don’t censor it. Pour it all out. When you’re done, read it once if you want. Then say:
“I release this. I release you. I take my energy back now.”
Burn the letter safely. Watch the flames. Imagine the words turning to smoke and disappearing from your body, your spirit, your life.
6. The Sacred Naming Spell
Sometimes we carry shame or silence around a past sexual connection. This gentle spell gives you a chance to speak your truth and claim your power back.
You’ll need:
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A piece of paper
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A black pen
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A small bowl of salt
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Your voice
How to do it:
Write the person’s name on the paper. Beneath it, write the energy you want to release. Example: “Guilt, fear, shame, longing, confusion.” Fold the paper three times toward you. Hold it in both hands and say:
“This is not mine anymore. I give it back. I take back my magic.”
Place the paper in the bowl of salt. Let it sit overnight. In the morning, throw it away or bury it. That’s it. Simple but mighty.
Coming Home to Yourself
There is nothing broken about you. You are not “too much” or “used up” or “damaged” for having loved deeply. You’re a living, breathing vessel of divine energy—and it’s okay to cleanse, to heal, to reclaim, and to begin again. Each ritual you do is like a step home, back into your own beautiful body, your own sacred power.
This is your energy. Your passion. Your life force. And when you call it back from the people who no longer deserve it, you make room for something more true. More aligned. More magical. So take your time. Be gentle. And remember—you’re allowed to be whole. Always.
