So, your ex did you dirty. Lied, cheated, ghosted, maybe even shattered your heart like it was nothing. And now you’re standing there with all that heavy, sticky energy swirling around inside you, wondering what you can do about it. You’re not out for revenge exactly—but you also don’t want to let them skip away scot-free, leaving you in emotional ruins while they move on like nothing happened. That’s where a little magick can come in. Yes, even hexes.
Now, let’s clear something up right away: hexing doesn’t have to mean cursing someone into eternal doom. It can be more like setting spiritual boundaries, giving the universe a little nudge to balance the scales, or just sending someone a big ol’ energetic “nope” after they’ve wronged you. The idea that all hexing equals bad karma? Not necessarily true. It’s more about intention than anything else. If your goal is healing and justice—not destruction or cruelty—you can move forward with your magick in a way that feels right, powerful, and aligned with your values.
Think of this less like punishment and more like protection. You’re not playing judge, jury, and executioner. You’re simply calling back your energy, sending theirs away, and making it known that your soul is off limits to anyone who treats you badly. Hexing, when done with care and clarity, isn’t about staying stuck in anger—it’s about creating space for your own healing and peace. It’s spiritual cleanup.
Before you start lighting candles or whispering incantations, take a breath. This isn’t about being impulsive. You’re not trying to bring more chaos into your life. This is about intention, release, and justice. It’s a spell. A prayer. A line in the sand. And with the right mindset, you can hex your ex without bringing bad vibes back to your doorstep.
1. Check Yourself First
Before you do anything, take a moment to really sit with your feelings. Are you doing this out of raw anger or pain that’s still super fresh? If so, pause. Not because you can’t hex—because you shouldn’t do it while your emotions are totally in charge. Magick works best when you’re clear and focused. Journal, cry, scream into a pillow—whatever you need to do. But don’t let your ex still have that kind of emotional power over you. Reclaim it. Then decide if you still want to cast.
Also, remember that a hex isn’t a shortcut to healing. It’s one small piece in a bigger process of letting go. You don’t have to be completely over it to do this, but you do need to be grounded in your intention. Ask yourself: What do I really want to happen here? Do you want them to feel the weight of their choices? Do you want them out of your energy field for good? Do you want closure or just a clean slate for yourself? Get clear.
2. Choose the Right Kind of Hex
Not all hexes are harsh. Some are more like “return to sender” spells, which simply bounce someone’s nasty energy right back to them. Others are cord-cutting hexes, aimed at fully detaching from someone emotionally or energetically. You could also use a truth-revealing hex—something to expose their lies or reveal their bad behavior to others, especially if they’ve been hiding it well. The key is to choose something that aligns with what you actually want—not just what you’re mad about.
You can even create your own hybrid spell, mixing a little protection for yourself with some justice for them. Want them to stop contacting you and feel the weight of what they did? Totally valid. Just remember to be honest with yourself—don’t pretend it’s all about peace if what you really want is consequences. Clarity helps the magick land better, and it helps you sleep at night too.
3. Gather Your Tools
Simple is powerful. You don’t need a whole shelf of exotic herbs or tools—just a few key things with meaning behind them. Here’s a starter list for a basic hex that won’t boomerang back on you:
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A black candle (for protection and banishing)
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A photo of your ex or their name written on paper
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Salt (for purification)
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A mirror (to reflect energy away)
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String or thread (to bind or cut ties)
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Optional: herbs like rosemary (cleansing), cayenne (heat + kickback), or nettle (banishing)
Cleanse your space with smoke, salt, or even sound (a bell works). Set your intention clearly. You might say it aloud, write it down, or just focus deeply on it. You’re not calling for harm—you’re calling for release, for closure, and for justice.
4. Do the Work
Once your tools are ready and your heart is steady, light the candle. Hold the photo or paper in your hands and speak your intention. Be clear, direct, and speak from your gut. Example: “You no longer have access to me. May your actions return to you with clarity and consequence. I release you from my life and call back all my energy now.”
You can tie the string around the paper if you’re binding, or cut it if you’re doing a cord-cutting. Sprinkle salt in a circle around the candle or your working space for protection. Place the mirror facing the photo or name to reflect energy back to them. Let the candle burn down safely (never leave it unattended). When you’re done, dispose of the remains carefully—bury it, toss it in running water, or trash it far from your home.
The important thing: once you’ve done it, let it go. Don’t obsess over the outcome or keep checking their social media to see if they’re suffering. That part isn’t your business anymore. Trust that the universe heard you and will do what needs to be done.
5. Cleanse Yourself After
This step is essential. Energetic work—especially hexes—can stir up heavy feelings. Cleanse yourself afterward. Take a bath with salt and herbs. Burn some sage or mugwort. Drink water, rest, and ground your body. This isn’t just about the spell—it’s about clearing out the emotional leftovers that made you want to do it in the first place.
You don’t want to stay stuck in bitterness. You want to move forward. So take care of yourself after the spell just like you would after an emotional release. Give your spirit some love. You’ve done your part. Now you can move on.
6. Focus on Your Own Magic Next
Once the hex is done, shift your energy toward yourself. Start manifesting what you want now. Maybe that’s peace, maybe it’s protection, maybe it’s new love. Just don’t let your ex be the center of your magical universe anymore—they don’t deserve that space. The most powerful thing you can do after a hex is grow.
Hexing can feel like closing a door, but it’s also opening a new one for you. One where you don’t have to carry pain that doesn’t belong to you anymore. So don’t forget to set intentions for your healing, joy, and expansion too. You’re not just someone who got hurt. You’re someone who decided to take your power back. That’s strong.
Moving On With Magic
You’re not a bad person for wanting justice. You’re not weak for needing closure. You’re just human. Hexing your ex doesn’t make you evil—it makes you aware of your own power. As long as you come from a place of clarity and keep your intentions grounded in healing, you can do this without guilt, fear, or bad karma hanging over your head.
In the end, the real magick isn’t in punishing someone—it’s in freeing yourself. Let the spell be your turning point. Not where the story ends, but where your next chapter begins. One where your heart is full, your energy is yours again, and your spirit remembers just how powerful it really is. ?
