We’ve all had that one person who just won’t let go. Maybe it’s an ex who keeps popping up in your DMs, or a friend-turned-drain who only shows up when they need something. You’ve said what you needed to say. You’ve blocked, ignored, pulled away—but somehow, their energy still lingers. It’s like they’ve got some invisible cord tying them to you, tugging at your peace. And it’s exhausting.
Now, you might not want to be harsh or create drama. Maybe you’re done talking, done explaining, done repeating yourself. You just want them gone—not in a rude way, but in a spiritual, soul-level “I release you” kind of way. That’s where spiritual ghosting comes in. This isn’t about avoidance. This is about reclaiming your space—mentally, emotionally, and energetically.
Spiritually ghosting someone is like saying, “We’re done here,” without even picking up the phone. It’s choosing your peace over their chaos. And the best part? It doesn’t require confrontation. It’s quiet, powerful, and real. Energy speaks louder than words, and once you start shifting yours, they’ll feel it—even if they don’t understand why they’re suddenly drifting away from you.
If someone is taking up space in your life that they no longer deserve, you’re allowed to let them go fully, deeply, and completely. So let’s get into how to spiritually ghost someone—so they leave you alone for good, and you get your energy back for you.
How to Spiritually ‘Ghost’ Someone So They Leave You Alone for Good
1. Get Clear on Why You’re Done
Before doing anything spiritual, sit with yourself and get real about why this person needs to be out of your life. Is it toxic behavior? Is it emotional exhaustion? Do they drain your energy or make you question your worth? You don’t need to over-explain it. But you do need to know it in your bones. Spiritual ghosting only works when it comes from a place of clarity, not confusion.
Write it down if you have to. “I’m letting go of [Name] because…” Let it pour out. Be honest. This is about your healing, not their feelings. When you’re clear on your “why,” the energy work becomes way more powerful.
2. Cut the Cord (Literally and Energetically)
This is the big one. Energetic cord-cutting is a real thing—and it’s not just woo-woo fluff. When you connect deeply with someone, especially emotionally or physically, you form energetic ties. Even if you haven’t spoken in weeks, those cords can keep their energy attached to yours.
You can do a simple cord-cutting ritual at home:
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Light a black candle (or white if you don’t have black).
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Sit in a quiet space and visualize the cord between you and them. It might be at your heart, your gut, or wherever you feel their presence.
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In your mind or out loud, say: “I now release you. I cut all energetic ties between us. I take back my energy. You are free. I am free.”
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Imagine yourself holding a pair of golden scissors and cutting the cord cleanly.
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Take a deep breath and feel the release. Blow out the candle when you’re done.
Do this as many times as you need. Sometimes the cords are thick and sticky—especially if they were once important to you.
3. Cleanse Your Space (They’re Probably Lurking)
Even if they’re not physically near you, their energy can still hang around your space. This is where smoke cleansing comes in. Burn herbs like sage, rosemary, or mugwort and walk through your home, especially areas you associate with that person. Say something like:
“This space is mine. I release any energy that doesn’t belong to me. Be gone.”
You can also cleanse with sound—bells, chimes, or even clapping around doorways. Open your windows while you do this. Let that energy out. Sprinkle salt at the thresholds if you really want to set boundaries (energetic and otherwise).
4. Call Your Energy Back to You
This part is simple but powerful. Every time you give someone your attention, even in annoyance or frustration, you’re giving them energy. Time to call it back.
Say (out loud or silently):
“I call back all parts of myself that I have given to [Name]. I welcome my energy home. I am whole again.”
Repeat it as often as needed. You might feel tired after doing this the first time. That’s normal. It means it’s working.
You can even imagine your energy like golden threads returning to you from wherever it’s been scattered. Visualize them weaving back into your body. It’s comforting. Like finally coming home to yourself.
5. Stop Feeding the Connection (Even in Your Mind)
Here’s a hard truth: the more you think about them, the more energy you give them—even if it’s negative. Obsessing over what they said, did, or might do keeps the cord alive.
You don’t have to pretend they never existed. But you can choose not to entertain their presence in your thoughts. When they pop into your mind, gently redirect. Think about something else. Say: “Nope. Not going there.” Over and over, if needed.
The more you ignore them spiritually, the more their influence fades. It’s like pulling the plug on an old program. Eventually, it just stops running.
6. Protect Yourself With Boundaries and Shields
If this person is persistent—or just naturally intense—you’ll need some extra protection. Think of it like putting up an energetic “Do Not Disturb” sign.
Here’s a quick daily shielding ritual:
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Stand or sit quietly. Close your eyes.
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Imagine a bubble of light forming around you—white, gold, or whatever feels strong.
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Say: “I am safe. My energy is mine. Nothing can enter this space without my permission.”
Visualize that shield throughout the day, especially before you sleep or go online. You can even wear protection charms—black tourmaline, obsidian, or onyx are great for this.
7. Release with Love, Not Hate
This part is important. Holding onto resentment keeps the tie alive. Even if they hurt you, you don’t need to carry that pain forever. Forgiveness isn’t for them. It’s for you. It’s how you finally set yourself free.
You don’t have to forget. You don’t even have to like them. Just say:
“I release you. I wish you peace far away from me. Go in your own direction.”
That kind of release hits harder than any argument ever could. They’ll feel the shift, even if they don’t understand it. And slowly but surely, they’ll disappear from your life—for good.
8. Don’t Check On Them (Let the Dead Stay Dead)
Resist the urge to peek at their social media, ask about them, or casually bring them up in conversation. If you’ve spiritually ghosted them, don’t revive the connection with curiosity.
Stay focused on your path. Trust that if they’re meant to be gone, they will stay gone—as long as you don’t go digging up their energy again. What you feed, grows. What you ignore, fades.
Goodbye Means Freedom: Set Yourself Free
Spiritually ghosting someone isn’t cruel. It’s self-care. It’s recognizing when a connection has run its course and choosing not to carry what no longer serves you. You’re not being petty. You’re protecting your peace. You’re honoring your energy. And honestly, that’s one of the most powerful things you can do.
So if someone just won’t leave you alone—energetically or otherwise—it’s okay to disappear from their spiritual radar. No loud exits, no final messages. Just quiet detachment, sacred boundaries, and deep release. They’ll feel the shift. And eventually, they’ll drift. And you? You’ll finally have space to breathe.
