There’s something that happens between two people in bed that goes way beyond the physical. You’ve probably felt it before — that weird electric pull, the moments where you just know what the other person is feeling without them saying a word, or that strange afterglow that makes you feel like you’ve been somewhere else entirely. That’s not just chemistry. That’s energy. And if you slow down enough to pay attention, you can actually see it.
Auras are the fields of energy that surround every living person, and they’re always there — at the grocery store, at work, in conversation. But during sex, something shifts. The energy field opens up in ways it rarely does in everyday life. Walls come down, emotions surface from places people didn’t even know they had, and the aura becomes more vivid, more active, and a whole lot easier to read. It’s one of the most honest moments a human being can offer another.
Reading someone’s aura during intimacy isn’t some advanced mystic skill reserved for psychics and spiritual teachers. It’s something you can develop with a little patience and a willingness to actually pay attention — not just to the body in front of you, but to the energy of the person you’re with. Colors, sensations, temperature, even the feeling in your own chest — all of it is information. All of it is the aura talking.
This guide is going to walk you through exactly how to tune in. Whether you’ve never thought about auras before or you’ve been practicing energy work for years, intimacy is one of the most powerful places to deepen this skill. You’ll get more connected to your partner, more aware of what’s really going on beneath the surface, and honestly — the sex gets better too.
First, Understand What an Aura Actually Is
An aura is a living energy field that surrounds your body — think of it like an invisible second skin that changes color and shape depending on your emotional and spiritual state. Every feeling, every thought, every fear and desire you carry shows up in your aura in some way.
During sex, this field becomes charged. It expands. The usual protective layers people carry around tend to drop away, and what you’re left with is something remarkably raw and real. Learning to read that is less about developing a superpower and more about learning to pay attention in a new way.
Soften Your Eyes
The number one thing that blocks people from seeing auras is trying too hard. Hard, focused vision — the kind you use to read your phone — actually works against you here.
What you want is what some people call soft eyes or peripheral awareness. Instead of staring directly at your partner, let your gaze go slightly unfocused, like you’re daydreaming while looking at them. Let your eyes rest on the space just around their body — their shoulders, the crown of their head, the outline of their silhouette.
The aura often shows up first as a thin shimmer or a slight haze of light. Some people describe it like heat rising off pavement. Others see faint color. Don’t force it. Just let your eyes go lazy and curious, and see what shows up at the edges.
Pay Attention to Color — It Tells You Everything
Once you start catching glimpses of the aura, color is the big one. Here’s a simple guide to what you might see during intimacy:
Red — passion, physical desire, strong life force energy. A lot of red means your partner is very much in their body and turned on.
Orange — creative energy, emotional warmth, playfulness. Orange often shows up when someone feels safe and joyful.
Yellow — mental energy, curiosity, sometimes nervousness. If someone has a lot of yellow, their mind might still be running even while their body is present.
Pink — tenderness, affection, love. Soft pink around the chest area is one of the most beautiful things you can see in a partner’s aura.
Green — healing energy, openness, growth. Green can show up when intimacy is doing something emotionally meaningful for someone.
Blue — calm, deep feeling, sometimes sadness or depth. Blue is water energy — it means something is moving emotionally.
Purple or Violet — spiritual connection, transcendence, deep soul-level intimacy. When you see purple, something sacred is happening.
White or Gold — this is rare and extraordinary. It usually signals a moment of pure spiritual union or deep energetic merging.
Feel the Energy, Not Just See It
Most people actually feel auras before they see them. And during sex, your whole body becomes a sensing organ.
Notice if your hands feel warm or tingly when they’re near certain parts of your partner’s body. Notice if your chest suddenly fills with emotion that doesn’t quite feel like yours. Notice if you get a sudden image, memory, or feeling that seems to come from nowhere.
That’s their energy field talking to yours. You’re not imagining it. You’re reading it.
Pay attention to spots that feel stuck, cold, or numb — these are often areas where your partner holds emotional tension or old pain. You don’t need to fix anything. Just being aware of it, being present with it, is already a form of healing.
Watch How the Aura Changes in Real Time
This is one of the coolest parts. The aura isn’t static — it shifts and changes moment to moment depending on what your partner is feeling.
Watch for it to brighten and expand during moments of real pleasure or emotional connection. It contracts when someone feels guarded or disconnected. Sometimes you’ll see sudden flashes of color — a burst of red, a wave of pink — that correspond exactly with what’s happening emotionally.
If the aura starts to feel thin or gray, that’s a signal your partner has checked out a little. Maybe they’re in their head, maybe something’s bothering them. This kind of awareness lets you respond with real sensitivity — slowing down, making eye contact, asking softly if they’re okay.
Notice the Space Between You
The most intense aura activity during sex isn’t just around each person individually — it’s in the space between you. When two energy fields merge and interact, the area between your bodies can literally light up with color and movement.
Some people describe it as a warmth or pressure between them that has nothing to do with physical touch. Others see light. Some feel a kind of vibration or humming. This is the energetic conversation happening between two people — deeper than words, older than language.
If you can learn to be present in that space — not just in your own body but in the between — you’ll experience a level of connection most people don’t even know is possible.
Protect Your Energy Too
When auras merge, it’s not a one-way street. You’re also being read. Your energy is also opening up and expanding. Which is beautiful — but it’s worth being intentional about.
Before intimacy, take a moment to set a quiet internal intention — something as simple as I open to real connection or I’m present and protected. Visualize a warm light around your own body that lets love in but keeps anything heavy from sticking.
After intimacy, especially if you’ve done any of this intentionally, spend a few minutes breathing slowly and coming back to yourself. Notice where your energy is. If you feel scattered or emotionally foggy, that’s your aura reintegrating. Give it time and gentleness.
The More You Practice, the Clearer It Gets
Like anything, this gets sharper with practice. You don’t have to be in bed to practice reading auras — you can do it with a trusted friend in a dimly lit room, or even by yourself in a mirror. Build the skill in low-stakes moments and it’ll be so much easier to access during intimacy.
The beautiful thing about developing this during sex is that it changes the whole experience. It stops being something that happens to you and starts becoming something you’re consciously participating in — as a full energetic being, in real connection with another full energetic being.
That’s not just intimacy. That’s something close to magic.
