Witch’s Guide to Dating a Narcissist (And Reclaiming Your Power After)

Not all monsters wear horns. Sometimes they show up with charm, the “perfect” smile, and just enough mystery to hook you in. You felt seen, wanted, even adored—at first. But slowly, like a glamour spell fading in the moonlight, you began to sense something off. The mirror cracked, and underneath? A narcissist, draining your magic drop by drop.

Witches are sensitive souls. We feel energy deeply, and we often attract the broken ones. The wounded ones. The ones who mistake our light for something they can keep in a jar. If you’ve dated a narcissist, chances are you saw something good in them—something you wanted to heal. That’s your magic heart at work. It’s not a flaw. It’s sacred. But that same loving magic can be twisted, and narcissists? They’re master manipulators.

This isn’t just about dating someone selfish. Narcissists warp reality. They gaslight, love-bomb, devalue, and discard. They drain your self-worth until you forget you’re a damn goddess. And you might start wondering—was any of it even real? The answer is: your love was real. Your kindness was real. Your energy was real. But they couldn’t match it. So they tried to consume it.

If you’re here, you’ve either escaped—or you’re getting ready to. Either way, this guide is for you. We’re going to talk about the signs, the spells that help, the healing, and how to call your power back from someone who never deserved it. You’re not broken. You’re becoming. And your magic is about to glow brighter than ever.

The Narcissist’s Trap (And How You Got Caught)

Narcissists are skilled at sniffing out empaths, healers, and intuitive women. Why? Because we’re the ones who listen, who nurture, who believe in people even when they don’t deserve it. They start strong—charming, romantic, intense. That’s called love-bombing. It’s a spell of attention, gifts, praise, and promises. They mirror you, pretending to be everything you want. It’s an illusion.

Then, when they feel they “have” you, the shift begins. They criticize more. They get cold. They make little jabs and claim you’re too sensitive. You begin to doubt yourself. That’s the gaslighting. You may even start apologizing when you’ve done nothing wrong. Over time, you’re walking on eggshells, hoping to get back to the version of them you fell for—but that version never really existed.

As witches, we often think we can fix or heal people with love. But here’s the truth: a narcissist doesn’t want to heal. They want control. They feed off attention—good or bad—and they hate accountability. The more you try to set boundaries, the more they twist things to make you feel like you’re the problem. It’s like being trapped in an energetic cage.

But you’re not helpless. You were under a spell, yes—but now you’re waking up. And witches? We know what to do with broken spells.

Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

Here are some magical red flags to watch for (and they are very real):

1. Love-bombing early on – too much too soon. Over-the-top flattery, gifts, and intensity.

2. They lack empathy – they seem cold when you’re upset or blame you for being “dramatic.”

3. Gaslighting – they deny things you clearly remember or twist your words.

4. Everything’s always your fault – even when they mess up.

5. They isolate you – from friends, family, or your own intuition.

6. They demand attention 24/7 – but give very little in return.

7. They’re charming in public but cruel in private.

8. You feel like you’re walking on eggshells all the time.

9. They disappear or go silent to punish you.

10. You’ve forgotten what it feels like to feel safe.

Recognize this? You’re not crazy. Narcissistic abuse is real and can leave deep scars. But your spirit knows. That’s why you’re here.

Breaking the Spell

First, cut the energetic cords. This is serious witch work, and it’s necessary.

Cord-Cutting Ritual:

• Light a black candle for protection and a white one for clarity.

• Take two pieces of string, tie them together, and label one with your name and the other with theirs.

• Meditate. Picture the bond between you. Feel how it drains you.

• Cut the string with a blade or scissors and say:
  
  “I release you. I call my power back. This bond is broken. So mote it be.”

• Bury the pieces far from your home or burn them (safely).

Then, cleanse your aura—salt baths, smoke, moonlight, crystals. Speak affirmations. Reclaim your worth. It’s time to remember who you are.

Reclaiming Your Power

When the spell breaks, it hurts. You’ll grieve—not just the person, but the dream you had with them. That’s okay. Let yourself cry, scream, journal, cast spells, dance under the moon. Feel it all. The pain is part of the spell clearing.

Start calling your energy back. Say:

“All parts of me that I gave away, I call back now. I am whole. I am mine.”

This is real magic. It works.

Rebuild your protection. Wear obsidian. Carry black tourmaline. Work with boundaries like you work with circles—firm, sacred, and not to be crossed. Get support from witches, friends, therapists—anyone who sees your light.

And most importantly—don’t blame yourself. You were targeted because of your goodness, not your weakness. Your heart is not the problem. Their hunger is.

The Witch Rises

Eventually, the fog lifts. You start to feel like you again. Stronger, wiser, more intuitive. You notice red flags faster. You trust your gut more. You set boundaries without guilt. That’s growth. That’s rebirth.

Dating a narcissist can be a deep initiation. It cracks you open. But from that crack, your real light shines through. And that light is powerful. It’s magnetic. It’s divine.

Now? You don’t chase love. You attract it—with discernment, with standards, and with the full force of your witchy soul glowing like a candle in the dark.

You’re Not Broken, You’re Reborn

Healing after a narcissist is like stepping out of a cave and blinking into the sunlight. You were lost for a while, but now you see clearly. You’re not the same person—but that’s a good thing. You’re wiser. Braver. And a hell of a lot more magical.

You’ve walked through shadow, but you didn’t lose your light. In fact, you’ve only made it stronger. So take your herbs, your spells, your intuition, your truth—and walk forward, head high. Your next chapter is waiting. And this time, you write the story.